Moving with a child is not as easy as it sounds. There is so much that needs to be done before, during and after the move.
However, proper arrangement should be made to make the whole process easy.
Before the move, your child will want to say goodbye to classmates, teachers, friends and their all familiar environment.
Then there is so much packing to be done and especially that which concerns the child. Children tend to be so possessive to their things and especially their toys. They will want to carry everything including those that they no longer use.
Then comes the ‘after the move’ before you even settle, you will have to get a new school for your child. It is upon you to assist your child to get accustomed to the new environment both at home and in their new school. Give them time to adjust and catch up.
They might lag behind in their new classroom. They will need encouragement before they get used to the new teachers and school rules. They will also need to be reassured and especially now that everyone will want to refer to them as “the new kid”.
Below are tips that will make the stressful time easier for everyone and especially your child.
Let Your Child Know About The Move
If your child is old enough, let them know that you are moving. It is alright to let them know why you are moving. Let them know whether you have a choice or not. However, this should be done early enough. This will give them time to prepare and come to terms that they are moving from this place they have always known to be home.
This will reduce the anxiety and uneasiness when it is finally time to move. It will be wrong for you to wait until they catch the news on a conversation. Remember, they like you have a life.
Deal With All Fear
Are you moving abroad? If yes, plan to deal with all fear and especially that of the unknown.
Let them know where you are moving to, and how it is like there. Show them pictures of their new home, talk to them about any language and cultural changes. Give them a sneak peak of how people are like where you are moving to.
According to CaliforniaMoversUSA it’s better to focus largely on the positives when talking about the move. For example, is the house you are moving to is bigger than your current one? Maybe the place has a warmer climate. There will be additional co-curricular activities and opportunities in their new school.
Talk to the new teachers about your child’s condition. Are they stressed? Request them to help monitor your child.
Start packing earlier
Have you noticed that it now takes you longer to leave the house than before your child came?
This is why you will need to start packing earlier than it seems reasonable.
You Need Help With The Child
Ask for help with your child from family or friends. They can either go with the child to their home for some time or until you are done packing. Alternatively, they can stay in the room that you will not be using.
Use Duct Tape That Is Color Coded
Color codes all the boxes with a duct tape. This is especially helpful if you do not know how the house you are moving to looks like. Have a particular color for each house. For example blue/pink for boxes with your child’s belongings.
Get rid of what you won’t carry at Night
To avoid hurting your child, get rid of toys and child things that you consider no longer necessary at night.
If they see you getting rid of it, be sure they will not allow. They will say that that is their best toy or item even though they have not played with it in the last year.
Have Some Exciting Surprises For You Child
In place of what you have destroyed or disposed off, have a replacement. Get some new exciting surprises for your child. Let them only see the surprises after you have reached your new place.
This will make them excited and distract their attention.
You all need Grace
You and your child need some grace. Moving is emotionally exhausting and psychologically disorienting. You need to make new friends, now where the grocery store is etc. This is not easy and it takes time. This is why you will need grace to keep you moving.
Time to pack their toys
Pack the box with your child’s toys last. This will ensure that they are fully occupied with what they love doing best up to the last minute. You can then pack these when they are asleep ready to move the following day.
Let Them Say Goodbye To Their Old House
When you are done packing and are ready to move out, let them say goodbye to their old house. They will definitely do this by going to the old house just in case they have forgotten something. It will help them to let go.
Once you are already in the new house, have unpacked and are already settled, the unknown might happen. This is why you should plan to deal with behavioral problems.
Some children develop lack of energy, development regression, separation anxiety or general sadness. Tackle these and anything else professionally.
Your attitude towards the move with has a major impact on your child and how they cope. Regardless of how you feel, let them know that all will be okay. Let them not see you angry, stressed or sad. Such will affect them negatively. Be positive even when you are overwhelmed.